To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Now this is a big subject to cover. Probably one of the biggest problems in today’s society is desiring what someone else has, to be like someone else, or to feel the expectation to be a certain person. Now being inspired by someone or something is different, considering you have a realistic view of yourself and can still maintian contentment in who you are, knowing you want or need personal growth. Otherwise, this is such a negative way to live life without even know you’re comparing yourself to someone. To not be happy with what you have or WHO YOU ARE! Sounds crazy! Yet its an epidemic that I think we all could use a little help on. It’s just “human” to want what someone else has or is.. I mean, the grass is always greener isn’t it?!
Now of course there are many routes to take this. Striving to succeed because “kicking life in the booty” is how you like to do things, I think we can completely relate on this mentality. God gave us the abilities to work and achieve, and so if you’re excited to “work” or “accomplish”, there is nothing wrong with that. Where this gets hairy, is if your living your life to fulfill other’s expectations or be someone you’re not, because of COMPARISON.
I’m not going to say that I know how to beat comparison, because the remedy is different for each person, and 100% of the time has to do with whether the person commits to a mindset of taking OWNERSHIP OVER THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES, and knowing that where you’re going involves your true passions and purpose, not someone else’s. We can’t control everything around us and need to understand that life isn’t fair, and if we don’t personally do something about it, not blame anyone else but ourselves. Although our comparisons all come in different shapes and sizes, I will say that being the best version of you, without accepting the noise or opinion from the world, may help you with overcoming your contentment issues.
I’m talking about letting comparison hold you back from your true joy and purpose because of the weight of the world’s expectations, values, and pressure to become someone you’re not. Many people are afraid the world will swallow them up with its value system, instead of their own, so they choose to conform and in turn are unhappy…UNLESS they become confident and content in what they believe and their life’s purpose.
Are you placing blame that you aren’t where you should be, because of someone or some other circumstance? Are you comparing yourself to a co-worker, another athlete, another family member? Do you know what “contentment” looks like, and what to do to achieve it? What does contentment even mean to you? How do you get there? So many people battle to achieve the “world’s” view and expectations of success all the while they unknowingly belittle themselves and their TRUE purpose to strive for a “goal” that once accomplished, they still feel empty.
You’ll have a hard time finding true joy in life until you realize your true purpose and stop worrying about what you think everyone else expects or has. You would think nothing could hold you back from achieving true purpose resulting in true joy… unless of course you are letting your comparison ruin your contentment. How are you going to step up to the plate and change your worldview? I would say that just being yourself is all you should worry about. Sounds simple? Maybe wherever you are in life, you should consider being the BEST VERSION OF YOU, so comparison doesn’t ruin your contentment. Whether you’re doing data entry in a cubical, raising kids, don’t like to be in the spotlight, on a stage performing, you need to strive to shut off the world around you, and focus what YOU WANT THE MOST OUT OF LIFE and FIND CONTENTMENT… #quietvictory
I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself. Rita Mae Brown
You may find this video below corny because it’s Rocky, but it’s a great message…
***Now a quick reminder that as I write these posts, it’s because I’ve been or am going through it, and while learning from my experiences I just want to share my thoughts or insight. I just hope the time I’m learning can in-turn help someone else that is striving for a similar mindset.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.